How many thousands of times have we heard this saying ‘girls… need to adjust’ since childhood? Small adjustments in habits and preferences… in marriage! But to what extent? What experts say…
ADJUSTING BUT HOW MUCH ?
Everyone has their own personality. That’s your specialty. Be able to accept it. Otherwise, if you want to live differently from your style, it is better to oppose it. If you continue even if you don’t like in the name of adjustment, you will lose your existence later. So, if it is different from your personality, it is better to refuse beforehand.
Worshipping of god, cinema, politics.. each has a different belief. One should be free to mention them. The decision should be yours and not someone else’s. Your partner should not have the power to force you to believe him/her.
Career.. This is one of those things where we must compromise. Make sure you keep it in your hands to continue and set aside. Both men and women are responsible for home and children! So, let’s stand by each other in this regard. Moreover, it should not become a hindrance.
Just because you get married doesn’t mean you have to leave old relationships. We have friends and relatives. To talk to them,If there is any objection to meet.. it should be discussed at the beginning. If you keep breaking relationships.. no one will be left for you. It should be your choice with whom to befriend and with whom to maintain good relations. Do not compromise on this matter either.
Whether working or being a housewife, manage your finances yourself. Focus on saving some money for yourself, investing in yourself. Fearing and counting every time you spend is a sign of the other person’s distrust of you. Don’t let it continue.
Do you like singing and reading books? There is no need to change as long as it doesn’t bother others. Does your partner like these? But set aside some time for them. Apart from that, there is nothing to be left aside.